Thursday, December 4, 2008

Altered State of Mind

Have you ever encountered a person that can change their mind like day changes to night....the sad thing is that you may know this person so well and would never see it coming despite the circumstances either of you are going through....there's nothing worse than feeling you were on top of the world once then plunged down to the depths of hell....and there's nothing you can do about it except try your hardest to fix whatever got you there.......sometimes all you can do is sit, wait and stare at a great thing disappear like sugar dissolves in water....except the taste is so bitter.
Now you can fix all you want, but it takes two people to pull through....yes i am talking about relationships here....it takes two sides to resolve any problem....it all depends on how we as people decide to perceive the problem, how we attack and solving.....we have to swallow our pride, anger and fear...the worst 3 things you can have in a relationship.....can ultimately destroy anything good on this earth....
Pride affects and destroys those around you without even noticing......a simple situation can turn to chaos because of pride....running after a high that doesn't really satisfy you...Anger...holding onto the past and bringing it up everytime you get into a fight to get some sort of leverage that trust me you don't need to solve the problem...using things in the past just ignites a fire that you already put out.......look forward coz the past is over and the future is yet to be created.........Fear...noone in this world doesn't hold some sort of fear in their hearts but its what you choose to use the fear to do that makes things fall into place.....fear should always push you towards your goals not away from them...after all no one knows what the future brings but if we're afraid of failure we'll be standing still all our lives....while everyone else runs by....
What happens if one side tries so hard to make things last or right while the other side simply decides they need to live their life....they've had it and blame you for something you only said or did because you were lost yourself.....being in a relationship doesn't mean supression....noone is putting anyone else in a box ....on the contrary its just respect and compromise from both to make things work.....coz when your in a relationship people that have a common ground become one....both entitled to their thoughts, ideas and opinions but always thinking about the other's feelings.....that's how it should be.....well at least i think so...
Now what if all the other problems you face you decide to blame someone else because you feel you've lost control of your life and taking out your anger on someone that loves you would make you feel that you've accomplished something....but at the same time the silent treatment isn't a solution.
Hurt is a feeling i personally wouldn't anyone to feel....coz if you've ever been hurt you'll understand that crying continuosly for two hours would become a daily ritual....its not like you can control it.....verbal abuse is so much worse than physical abuse (although haven't been physically abused personally) your physical wounds will hurt but heal fast....deep inside there's a wound that may not ever heal.....leaves you crippled....trying to take a breath but there's no oxygen left....as if your 10 feet under and upside down....
Someone who makes you second guess every single thought and word that could ever come out of your mouth....makes it that much harder to communicate.......let me wrap it up here....relationships can be a walk in the park if you let them be.....its not a war between two sides ....rather a union in which we respect, compromise, understand, forgive and build the love and passion that was there in the first place to grow into something amazing that could last forever....

3 comments:

m-a-n-x said...

This is what I call a guideline to those less-than-bright aka men!

"if you've ever been hurt you'll understand that crying continuosly for two hours would become a daily ritual...."

this part is depressing but so true :(

Rabi yktooblik ili fi '7air insha'allah...

Sweet Anger said...

I like to think, that a real relationship is one where ur allowed to grow, your left to breathe and truely be you, where even if u break down you have someone to hold you together not cause you cant urself jst cause they want to do it for you.

Pride, hmm u cud say its lol the salt of life a little is fine too much will literally kill you

Verbal abuse is soooo much worse, it cuts you where it never heals, and u can try to forgive but u'll never forget

meh thinking about it, relationships are jst too much trouble, lol men are meant to be used and used only hahahahaha

Lalloosha said...

manx....even if men read this guidline they dnt hav the capacity to implement nethin...they think from the waist down darling...

sweet anger nicely put....isn it sad tht all this can b generalized to all men ....life bleh